We Need to STOP Targeting Eye Contact

In recent years, our approach to supporting autistic and neurodivergent children has significantly evolved. This shift is thanks to the growing neurodiversity-affirming movement and the invaluable voices of autistic individuals themselves. One of the most significant changes involves our understanding of communication preferences, particularly concerning eye contact. Traditionally viewed as essential for social interaction, especially in Western cultures, eye contact can actually be a source of great discomfort and even pain for many autistic people.

Autistic individuals experience the world differently than neurotypical individuals. Maintaining eye contact while processing auditory information can be overwhelming, even described as physically painful for some. As professionals, educators, and caregivers, it's crucial to move away from expecting eye contact as a measure of engagement or understanding.

Instead, we need to recognize and respect the diverse ways autistic children express and perceive joint attention. Autistic joint attention looks different from neurotypical joint attention - it may be subtle, like a quick glance, a smile, or excited stimming. These are all genuine expressions of connection and engagement.

By prioritizing emotional connection and trust-building that respects autistic joint attention, we create a supportive environment where autistic children feel valued for who they are. This involves actively listening to their needs and preferences, nurturing their interests. Embracing these passions builds a sense of empowerment and self-worth.

Communication is a two-way street. By adapting our methods to accommodate diverse communication styles, we not only respect neurodiversity but also enrich our interactions with autistic children. This paradigm shift requires a willingness to unlearn traditional norms and embrace a more inclusive approach that celebrates the unique perspectives and strengths of every individual.

As we continue to learn from autistic individuals themselves, let's support their right to communicate in comfortable and authentic ways. Let's amplify their voices and advocate for inclusive environments and approaches. Together, we can create a world that respects differences and embraces neurodiversity.